I’ve been talking with a friend a little more often lately because he’s been dealing with a lot of issues the last couples of months. I’ve been reaching out to him in order to provide him with a more optimistic perspective to his problems.
Dealing with my mental issues (anxiety and depression) and some health problems as well have taught me how to cope with my problems, simply by acknowledging what I have now spite of everything I daily face. With this mentality, I have tried to influence my friend’s life perspective to value what really matters and how positive thinking would allow him to think clearly and bring about a shift in his life.
However, it has turned out to be a monumental endeavor. No matter what I say to him, he always seems to find an excuse to refute any possible scenario which might aid him toward a self-discovery.
He’s gotten himself into a lot of debt which have affected his monthly expenses. Nevertheless, he still has a roof over his head, a family who loves and won’t leave him to starve, health, a permanent position as a school teacher and a supportive, loving boyfriend. I’ve highlighted those facts to him every time we talk, using a different approach or set of words, yet no breakthrough has been accomplished.
He seems to focus on only the empty space in his glass. The things he doesn’t have: an easier commute (he works 30 minutes away from his home), a better car, a more successful business (he has his teaching job and a business on the side), a bigger house, and more money. It’s become impossible to motivate him into overlooking the things he lacks.
Have we been trained to revel on material possessions that we have forgotten anything else that matters?
I guess we have. After talking with my friend, I also think of myself and the way I used to be or feel about things. I was him. I remember when I was pushed by my dad and mom to have what they thought I deserve. I recall what the talks with my friends and I used to have were about. I was taught at school to be successful. Hence, being successful meant to prosper by acquiring things to live as celebrities live.
I learned and chose to be happy. But, I strongly believe we should be taught to learn a few simple steps on how to acknowledge happiness and cherish it.
I never used to see my glass full. In contrast to what the world demands to have in order to feel I had achieve something, I failed to see that I had it all. Luckily, I still have it, despite the mental and health issues. But, because of them, I believe my journey for happiness and peace of mind has led me to feel more fortunate by just being me.
How do I look at my glass now?
Well, I threw it away. No more glass. No more concepts of emptiness and fullness. It is just me.